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It’s Not Goodbye, It’s See You Later

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I’ve got a confession, guys: I’ve never been good at goodbyes. In fact, I’m kind of the worst. And this isn’t a new revelation; ever since I was little I had a tendency to break into the sweats, to turn into a ball of stress in the days, hours, minutes leading up to any sort of parting. Suffice to say I’ve pretty much nailed the art of trying to stifle the ugly cry (Crying?! Oh no hahaha I’m not crying. I just was doing some onion chopping. You know, just in case I wanted to…make salsa later? It’s never too early to Taco Tuesday.)

This morning as I drove into work, my last day at Westwood College, this notion of goodbye weighed heavily on my heart. This has been a day that as you can imagine, I’ve been dreading for quite some time, a day that was always in the distance, just hanging there like a black cloud, or that left eyebrow that doesn’t ever want to cooperate. Everyone, both the students and the staff were told months ago that the school was closing, which I guess I am grateful for. We had time to prepare, to ready ourselves, to get the closure that we all wanted and deserved. But it still doesn’t make it any easier, any less scary or sad.

I think one of the reasons why goodbyes are so hard for me is because they signify an ending. I love a good beginning, and don’t even get me started about the middle. y’all! But endings, I’ve got mixed feelings. Whether it be a career change, a decision to move to another city, our SO breaking up with us or vice versa – these types of life altering occurrences feature endings that weigh heavily on our emotions. Whether you saw it coming or were completely blindsided, the feelings are still going to be present. In reality, there’s no amount of time in advance that can fully prepare us for the actual goodbye — the part where the moment we’ve been dreading finally comes to fruition, or the worst case scenario you hadn’t expected suddenly snatches comfort from your grasps.

You should have seen me when I reached the page of the seventh and final Harry Potter book. I was a hot mess. I was the hottest of the messes, actually. I put off reading the last chapter for weeks, months, because I thought that if I just kept that last chapter open and left unfinished, it would always be there to come back to, a moment preserved in time. If I didn’t finish it, the ending wouldn’t feel real, it wouldn’t be real.

Of course as with all things in life, most good things, great things have to come to an end at some point. It may be hard, it may be scary and sad and unpronounced in the initial moment (or days, months and even years afterwards), but these endings can sometimes be blessings in disguise. I’m gonna totally cliché you here, but when a door closes, sometimes it really is a catalyst for an even better window to open, a window that allows you the opportunity to grow, to learn, to change. Many of the things that I have done or the people that I have had the incredible chance to meet and get to know in my life—professionally, academically, and even in my relationships–have been because of a previous goodbye, an ending that was the precursor to an even greater beginning.

The truth is, goodbyes are never going to be something we can really fully adapt to. They’re all different and each one is followed by a different person, place or thing being absent in our lives. There are the necessary goodbyes that we feel a sense of relief after, but even then, to know that something we once felt strongly about or comfortable with is going to cease to exist can be scary. And that’s okay. It means we’ve felt, we’ve loved, we were lucky enough to care so deeply about something.

Maybe we should eliminate “goodbye” from our vocab. Ciao, farewell, later, ta-ta, adieu  — any of those feel a lot less concrete and final, and leave that window open for an incredible hello.

To my Westwood family, I love you, I love you all, and I will see you later. ❤

 

It’s Not Goodbye, It’s Just A ‘See You Later…Alligator’

I don’t know about you, but I have always had a hard time saying goodbye.

Whether it was waving farewell to my mom in the mornings before I boarded the big yellow school bus before school, bear-hugging it out with my bestest friends before we all left for college, looking at my Thunder’s sad eyes through the window as I drive off to work everyday or even bidding adieu to a favorite TV show that would not be returning the following year (RIP Seinfeld…We will always have our DVD dates), saying goodbye sucks!

It’s one thing to say adios to someone or something who you know you will see soon, but when it comes to saying goodbye to someone or something that you know you won’t, it’s oh so hard.

I like to think that they’re not so much ‘Goodbyes’ as they are ‘See you later’s’, hinting to a non-escapeable moment in the future that you will once again be reunited with that someone or something, no matter how much time or distance eludes you.

It’s not goodbye, it’s see you later!

If you think of it in that way, it’s not so dire, so sad, so permanent.

To make saying goodbye a little easier, I have come up with a fun list of new alternatives to use when parting ways. Some of these I am sure you have all heard before, but some are brand-spanking new. Cheesy? Yes. Corny? Absolutely! But totally amazing? You bet your snake-skin boots they are! Trust me, after hearing some of these diddy’s, you will never want to say a simple ‘Bye’ or ‘See ya’ ever again!

1. See ya later, alligator!

2. In a while, crocodile.

3. In an hour, sunflower!

4. Maybe two, kangaroo!

5. Gotta go, buffalo.

6. Adios, hippos.

7. Chow chow, brown cow.

8. See you soon, you big baboon.

9. Adieu, cockatoo!

10. Better swish, jellyfish!

11. Chop chop, lollipop!

12. Gotta run, skeleton.

13. Bye-bye, butterfly.

14. Better shake, rattlesnake.

Nice, right? Don’t tell me you won’t be wishing your roommate a, “See you soon, you big baboon” tomorrow morning. 😉

Now don’t get me wrong, some things I don’t even have to bat an eyelash at when it comes to saying goodbye to; jelly shoes (Youch those things hurt!), colored Heinz ketchup (good idea in theory but it kinda sorta weirded me out when I looked at my hog dog and the bluish hue made it look like it had an expiration date ending in B.C.) and of course, one miss ED (She didn’t even deserve a goodbye, more like a swift kick in the bum all the way to Timbuctoo!) to name just a few.

When you do get those rare things that are easy to say goodbye to, it’s such a rush, a weight lifted off of your shoulders, a break in the clouds if you will. It is a chance for you to move on to bigger and better things, to try something new, to break out of your comfort zone and see what else is out there.

Severing ties from someone or something can be hard, but sometimes, it has to be done, whether it feels good at the moment or not (I thought saying goodbye to my job as a marketing assistant was the worst thing in the world at the time, but if that didn’t happen, I wouldn’t be in the process of finally going after what I truly wanted which was to go back and get my Master’s in Library Science). Those difficult decisions are what help us grow, change, learn and move forward, becoming better people in the process.

Maybe the take away in all of this is that a ‘Goodbye’ or even a ‘See you later’ doesn’t have to mean the end of the world. Maybe, that ‘Goodbye’ or ‘See you later’ is just a different door opening which will lead you to a ‘Hello’ and a big ‘ol ‘Howdy!’

I hate to say goodbye guys, but I’ve gotta run. I hope you have a fantabulous rest of your Tuesday!

This blog post now ends, so tootles, my dear, dear friends 🙂

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