Hey guys! I hope you all had the most fantabulous Christmas in the history of ever and that it wasn’t too brutal rolling into work today. Not even going to lie; I may or may not have snooze-buttoned it up at last
four five seven times this morning. It was rough, folks. But the good news: at least we have another short week due to the New Years holiday on Friday!
Speaking of New Years, GOOD GRAVY, BATMAN! Can you believe that there are only three-ish more days left of 2015?! Seriously though. Where did this year go? Despite it seeming like it flew by like a golden snitch, there was a lot that happened this year.
There were also a lot of things that we learned.
For example, we learned that “I woke up like this” makes for a great morning Snapchat caption. We learned that Adele and her angelic voice and damn-near-impossible-to-replicate-winged eyeliner ruled the world. And we can’t forget about this fashionable life-lesson. My head still hurts from that one.
Some things may have panned out differently than you’d have hoped, but now you’re able to access those emotions and better relate to other people. Unpleasant experiences are valid and make you stronger and wiser. And even though you may begin this year going back to a job you hate, with a name tag that’s tacky, you’re still confident that 2016 is YOUR year. It is also everyone else’s year. But also, YOUR year. There is probably nothing more personal than goals one might have to better themselves, but here are some things I’ve been chewing on.
Here are 16 things to take with you in 2016. (Or not! You do you, my friends.)
- Let go of the people who are bringing you down.
You may not even recognize who they are right away, because they might not be doing anything overtly cruel or demeaning. But take note of the people who make you feel loved and energized and inspired. Those are the people you want to keep by your side. Invest in people who make you happy, make you laugh, and challenge you to be better. Gently let go of the rest and walk away.
- By the same token, don’t let people’s words about you influence who you think you are.
Don’t allow them to make you love yourself any less. You are a perfectly flawed little human; you’re going to make mistakes. Focus on what you can do better rather than what you’ve done in the past.
- Stop. Breathe. Then respond.
Think of how much someone has hurt you with a quick, biting response of theirs, and try not to do that to someone else. Your responses shape your experiences, as well as the experiences of others.
- Act out of compassion and empathy.
Don’t assume the worst. Everyone (hopefully) is doing their best with their current circumstances. Give them the benefit of the doubt, just as you hope someone would do for you.
- Stop focusing on physical beauty and start focusing on how you feel.
So what if you can’t seem to get back down to that 120 lb. weight you were at a few years ago? Stop hating yourself for not being the same size and shape as that Victoria’s Secret model, and focus on the satisfaction good health can bring you instead.
- But: find balance.
You’ll just feel better if you balance out that bagel and cream cheese with some greens. Just don’t let your attempt at progress paralyze you from living your life. Life is just too short not to have the donut, ya dig?
- Let yourself be affected by things.
This is huge for me. That beautiful sunny day or the adorable puppy you see on the street or your favorite song from 2006 that randomly comes on your Spotify? Take note. Take it in. Freaking ugly cry hardcore if you want to. Appreciate every ounce of sincere happiness that it brings you. Be grateful for every joyful (and no-so-joyful) moment you are given in this life.
- Tell people how much they mean to you.
Life would be nothing without the people we care about. Remind people that they’re loved and appreciated, and that you’re thankful they were born. Also, a smile and bear hug go a long way.
- Compliment people – and not just about their physical appearance.
How special do you feel when someone compliments something about your character? Acknowledge the things you admire or enjoy about someone and tell them. Do it. NOW! Okay, maybe finish reading this first but then DO IT!
- Get better at following a budget.
This one doesn’t need elaboration. We all want to be financially stable; budgets help with that, much to our adulting chagrin.
- Stop telling yourself you can’t celebrate your little victories.
Whether it’s not talking to an ex, or not drinking pop (soda to all my non-Midwest peeps out there) for a day/week/month: acknowledge it and let yourself be proud of it, dammit!
- Empower people.
Consciously recognize when you feel yourself about to put them down or tell them to “be realistic.” STFU. Unless they’re telling you it’s their dream to jump off a building with no harness or paraglider or giant bubbleboy contraption, encourage them! Sometimes all anyone needs is someone to cheer them on, to believe in them. When you’re done empowering others, don’t forget to do the same for yourself! Go after that dream, that goal, that thing you’ve always wanted to try but never thought you could. I’ll let you in on a little secret: YOU CAN! You can trust me, I’m a librarian. I know things.
13. Don’t be guarded.
Be aware that you’re fragile. And shake the box without reading the label. Approach relationships and friendships as an opportunity to exchange ideas, learn about other humans and explore your own vulnerability and capacity to care and feel and love.
14. Up your Instagram game.
Choose to have experiences. Limit the selfies. Create your own inspirational quotes. Be present with the ones you’re with and for goodness sakes, stop sleeping on your phone!
15. Love and be loved.
Be kind. And accept the kindness of strangers. Never underestimate the value of attention you give to others.
- Just fucking own it.
Whatever “it” is. Whether it’s a mistake you’re taking ownership of, a new haircut you’re self-conscious of, or a dream you’re wanting to pursue: just own it. This is your life – make it what you want it to be and don’t apologize for being yourself.
I’ve got a feeling 2016 is going to be our year, y’all!