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Going into 2016 like a boss


Hey guys! I hope you all had the most fantabulous Christmas in the history of ever and that it wasn’t too brutal rolling into work today. Not even going to lie; I may or may not have snooze-buttoned it up at last four five seven times this morning. It was rough, folks. But the good news: at least we have another short week due to the New Years holiday on Friday!

Speaking of New Years, GOOD GRAVY, BATMAN! Can you believe that there are only three-ish more days left of 2015?! Seriously though. Where did this year go? Despite it seeming like it flew by like a golden snitch, there was a lot that happened this year.

A lot.

There were also a lot of things that we learned.

A lot.

For example, we learned that “I woke up like this” makes for a great morning Snapchat caption. We learned that Adele and her angelic voice and damn-near-impossible-to-replicate-winged eyeliner ruled the world. And we can’t forget about this fashionable life-lesson. My head still hurts from that one.

Some things may have panned out differently than you’d have hoped, but now you’re able to access those emotions and better relate to other people. Unpleasant experiences are valid and make you stronger and wiser. And even though you may begin this year going back to a job you hate, with a name tag that’s tacky, you’re still confident that 2016 is YOUR year. It is also everyone else’s year. But also, YOUR year. There is probably nothing more personal than goals one might have to better themselves, but here are some things I’ve been chewing on.

Here are 16 things to take with you in 2016. (Or not! You do you, my friends.)

  1. Let go of the people who are bringing you down.

You may not even recognize who they are right away, because they might not be doing anything overtly cruel or demeaning. But take note of the people who make you feel loved and energized and inspired. Those are the people you want to keep by your side. Invest in people who make you happy, make you laugh, and challenge you to be better. Gently let go of the rest and walk away.

  1. By the same token, don’t let people’s words about you influence who you think you are.

Don’t allow them to make you love yourself any less. You are a perfectly flawed little human; you’re going to make mistakes. Focus on what you can do better rather than what you’ve done in the past.

  1. Stop. Breathe. Then respond.

Think of how much someone has hurt you with a quick, biting response of theirs, and try not to do that to someone else. Your responses shape your experiences, as well as the experiences of others.

  1. Act out of compassion and empathy.

Don’t assume the worst. Everyone (hopefully) is doing their best with their current circumstances. Give them the benefit of the doubt, just as you hope someone would do for you.

  1. Stop focusing on physical beauty and start focusing on how you feel.

So what if you can’t seem to get back down to that 120 lb. weight you were at a few years ago? Stop hating yourself for not being the same size and shape as that Victoria’s Secret model, and focus on the satisfaction good health can bring you instead.

  1. But: find balance.

You’ll just feel better if you balance out that bagel and cream cheese with some greens. Just don’t let your attempt at progress paralyze you from living your life. Life is just too short not to have the donut, ya dig?

  1. Let yourself be affected by things.

This is huge for me. That beautiful sunny day or the adorable puppy you see on the street or your favorite song from 2006 that randomly comes on your Spotify? Take note. Take it in. Freaking ugly cry hardcore if you want to. Appreciate every ounce of sincere happiness that it brings you. Be grateful for every joyful (and no-so-joyful) moment you are given in this life.

  1. Tell people how much they mean to you.

Life would be nothing without the people we care about. Remind people that they’re loved and appreciated, and that you’re thankful they were born. Also, a smile and bear hug go a long way.

  1. Compliment people – and not just about their physical appearance.

How special do you feel when someone compliments something about your character? Acknowledge the things you admire or enjoy about someone and tell them. Do it. NOW! Okay,  maybe finish reading this first but then DO IT!

  1. Get better at following a budget.

This one doesn’t need elaboration. We all want to be financially stable; budgets help with that, much to our adulting chagrin.

  1. Stop telling yourself you can’t celebrate your little victories.

Whether it’s not talking to an ex, or not drinking pop (soda to all my non-Midwest peeps out there) for a day/week/month: acknowledge it and let yourself be proud of it, dammit!

  1. Empower people.

Consciously recognize when you feel yourself about to put them down or tell them to “be realistic.” STFU. Unless they’re telling you it’s their dream to jump off a building with no harness or paraglider or giant bubbleboy contraption, encourage them! Sometimes all anyone needs is someone to cheer them on, to believe in them. When you’re done empowering others, don’t forget to do the same for yourself! Go after that dream, that goal, that thing you’ve always wanted to try but never thought you could. I’ll let you in on a little secret: YOU CAN! You can trust me, I’m a librarian. I know things.

13. Don’t be guarded.

Be aware that you’re fragile. And shake the box without reading the label. Approach relationships and friendships as an opportunity to exchange ideas, learn about other humans and explore your own vulnerability and capacity to care and feel and love.

14. Up your Instagram game.

Choose to have experiences. Limit the selfies. Create your own inspirational quotes. Be present with the ones you’re with and for goodness sakes, stop sleeping on your phone!

15. Love and be loved.

Be kind. And accept the kindness of strangers. Never underestimate the value of attention you give to others.

  1. Just fucking own it.

Whatever “it” is. Whether it’s a mistake you’re taking ownership of, a new haircut you’re self-conscious of, or a dream you’re wanting to pursue: just own it. This is your life – make it what you want it to be and don’t apologize for being yourself.

I’ve got a feeling 2016 is going to be our year, y’all!

New BegENDings: Mission 2012

Happy happy New Year everybody!

I don’t know about you, but my 2011 was a rollercoaster of a year, full of highs and lows, twists, turns and even a few loop-d-loops every once and again.

Some of the highs:

  • I started my very first ‘big girl’ job!
  • I made the big move to one of the greatest cities in the world, Milwaukee.
  • I got my very first apartment.
  • The Packers won the Superbowl AND my Brewers had an amazing season, almost making it to the World Series!
  • I became a hybrid version of Martha Stewart and Bob Vila, cooking, crafting, fixing my own toilet and changing my own oil.
  • I stared this blog and found out how passionate I am about writing.
  • I discovered finally what it is I want to do with my life and took the plunge to make that dream a reality.

Some of the lows:

  • I was fired from my very first ‘big girl’ job.
  • I made the big move back down to Georgia (temporarily… just until I start school in the fall).
  • I am living in my parents old house. It is huge. And a bear to keep clean. And is quite echo-y at times with just me and my pup Thunder living there.
  • My Brewers suffered a big blow, losing Prince Fielder (to the Cubbies most likely) and almost losing Braun for the first fifty games next season due to a steroid issue–come to find out, he was taking medication for a slight case of the Herp…oy vay.

Yes, this past year was a doozy. It was great at times and it was not so great at times. I guess that’s how life is though, full of surprises and experiences, both good and bad. God gives us challenges and throws us curve balls so that we can become stronger and wiser. He also does this (much to our dismay at times) so that we can truly appreciate what we have, the moments that make us laugh and smile and remember why our lives are such a gift and a blessing. I think that is one of the reasons I like reflecting on the past year; it puts into perspective where I was, where I am going and how far I have come and will go in the year to come.

Now that 2012 is upon us, many people take this time to make or set resolutions for themselves in the year to come. I never was real big on resolutions; the reason being: I somehow always manage to start strong in the beginning of the year (or at least for the first few weeks or so) and then slowly but surely lose motivation and end up breaking or not quite reaching the resolutions that I made which just makes me feel bad for not following through. It is quite the ordeal. While making resolutions is, in theory, a great idea, for me, it just never really works. That is why this year for the first time, I am starting what I am deeming: Mission 2012 (and sorry Tom Cruise, this mission is one I intend to accept and prove possible. I will leave all those other impossible ones to you and your skyscraper-scaling ways).

I think that if I set goals for myself, reachable and totally attainable goals, goals that I will continue all year round (starting right now, this first day of January), I will be more likely to reach them and not break into the temptation of slacking off mid-way through. So here we go, my Mission 2012 as follows:

Goal 1: Healthy, Happy and Whole

The biggest goals of this Mission 2012 is to finally get to a healthy, happy and whole place in my life. While most people are making resolutions to lose those extra fifteen pounds they collected over the past year, I am doing the exact opposite. I want more than anything to gain those extra fifteen pounds (plus a few extra if possible). I want to once again be that girl who had serious pipes and strong, runner’s legs. I want to have an actual woman’s body instead of the slightly boyish figure I now am sporting (Target isn’t selling J.Lo’s booty by any chance, are they?). I want to be able to chow down on that burger, fries and vanilla milkshake and NOT feel an ounce bad for doing it. I want to be able to spend a lazy day doing absolutely nothing and not feel guilty for not going for a run or swim. I want to be able to look into the mirror and say, “Yeah. I am pretty darn beautiful. I am strong and confident and I will kick your butt at a game of HORSE.” This is probably going to be THE hardest challenge I will ever have to face, but it is one that is worth every struggle or tear or frustration. It is one that is long overdue and that I deserve. I am SO ready to feel good on the inside as well as on the outside and it starts NOW!

Goal 2: Do something spontaneous, at least once a week.

I have always been a planner. It’s what I do. I like to know what is going to happen, where and when it is going to do so. I am not much for surprises and prefer to be in control of things. Sometimes this can be a good thing, but other times, not so much. This is why I am going to attempt to slowly break down the walls of my pocket planner. I want to be able to take life as it comes, to not be so consumed with what is happening tomorrow that I forget to miss out on today.

Goal 3: Learn to love myself

I know it sounds cheesy, but one of my biggest goals for this year is to be kinder to myself. I once was a really confident gal; a star-athlete, an academic scholar, a top-notch working professional. After this past year, my ego suffered a bit. I am not going to lie; without playing a sport or going to school or excelling at a job, I kind of became a little self-conscious. Of course I was still the same person–nothing could or will change who I am–I just didn’t feel like I was doing anything with my life to be proud of. Well that all changes TODAY! From now on, as silly as it may sound, I am going to wake up each day, look at myself in the mirror, and say at least one good thing about myself. I am a funny, kind, intelligent, giving, creative, and thoughtful person gosh darn it and should be proud of who I am, no matter if I am the track star (or not), getting a 4.0 GPA (or not), or receiving ‘Employee of the Month’ (or not). This one is going to be hard but it’s one I can and will do. Plus, I already have my quota for the next six days to get started 🙂

Goal 4: Go after what I want

This is the year I stop waiting and like Nike says, JUST DO IT. For so long, I have not gone after things in my life due to fear or apprehension. Because I didn’t want to be rejected or hurt, I avoided any possible attempt at following a dream or wish I had to instead stay in the ‘known’ and safe areas of my life. I have followed what I thought was the right path for me. I was too afraid to choose a different direction and go on an unwalked street because I am sometimes afraid of change. But who is to say what path I should take or if there is just one path? Change is a good thing sometimes, isn’t it? Starting today, I am going to try to take everything that I am afraid of doing and do them anyway, in spite of the fact. That life-long dream of one day working in a library or in a museum as an archivist surrounded by millions and millions of my beloved books–I am going to get my Master’s Degree in Library Science and finally DO IT. That one guy who I compare all other guys to, who I can’t get out of my head, my best friend, the one has my heart but doesn’t know it–I am going to DO IT and finally tell him how I feel. That short-story writing contest that I have thought about entering but never got around to it–I am going to DO IT and submit my latest story (or two). It is time that I stop fearing and start DOING! I am Wendi, hear me roar!

Goal 5: Become a team-player

One of the things I am most looking forward to doing this year is once again becoming part of a team…sports team that is. I can’t tell you how much I miss getting down and dirty in weekly softball games, showing off my mad David Beckhamm-like skills on the soccer field or just having a ball (pun intended) playing a little kickball with friends. I miss the games, I miss the action and competitiveness, and I miss the commadery. Not only will it be a fun way to be active, but it is a great way to meet people. Sign me up, coach!


Goal 6: Less Facebook, more Facetime

Facebook is great, it really is but there is something to be said about actually spending time with friends and family, face to face instead of through the screen of your Mac Book Pro. I miss grabbing a coffee with a pal and catching up on each other’s week or going for a walk  or catching a matinée with my sister, laughing hysterically over Will Ferrel’s latest hijinks. I vow to try to spend more time with my actual friends and family this year than my virtual ones. Sorry Mark Zuckerburg, but this chica’s stock in Facebook is going down.

Goal 6: Smile and laugh everyday

‘Nough said on this one 🙂

These goals are not all going to be easy to accomplish but they are not impossible. They are in fact, very attainable and completely doable. They are also goals that I have been trying to reach for quite some time now, not just within the past year. Mission 2012 is all about finally getting to the point in my life, one minute, one hour, one day at a time, where I can be the best person I can be. I can be the happiest and healthiest and butt-kickenest version of myself. 2012 is the year I reclaim my life and start LIVING!

I am not going to say it’s going to be a walk in the park. And I will most likely hit a road-block or two in this mission (hey, even Tom Cruise gets taken captive or has bombs to deactivate every once and again), but I will complete it. I may need your help along the way (in fact I know I will), but I will complete it.

I hope everyone had a great New Years today, but more importantly, that your year, all 365 days, are spent with the same gusto and positive oomph that you had going into 2012. Mission 2012…make it amazing!

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