- Wear red lipstick. That really bright, bold kind that you always try on at Sephora, love, but ultimately decide against because it just doesn’t feel “like you.” You are most definitely a red lipstick girl.
- Go to a restaurant by yourself with just a book (your phone with all of it’s texts and Instas and Facebooks MUST stay in your purse/pocket). Read, enjoy your meal, have a glass of wine (or two), look at the people around you. Get over that silly fear of eating out alone by realizing how awesome it is. More fries for you is never a bad thing, amiright?
- Walk around naked in your apartment after a shower for as long as you’d like. Hell, watch a few episodes of Seinfeld naked. Forget that you have to get dressed at all (but I mean, definitely remember to get dressed before leaving said apartment. Or before frying up some bacon because hot grease splatter is a very real thing.)
- Learn to cook, even if you’re the Carrie Bradshaw, I-use-my-oven-for-storage type of girl who swears she can ruin a box of Kraft Mac & Cheese. Learn to make something for yourself, to feel the pleasure of a job deliciously well done, and to open up an entirely new world of hobbies and interests just by engaging with one room in your apartment/house. Martha Stewart be damned!
- Paint a wall a crazy color. If you decide you hate it, you can always paint over it. Life is meant to be lived in color (but might I suggest staying away from the limest of greens? Just. So. Bright.)
- Check thrift stores, Craigslists, stoops and random Facebook groups for everything you need for your apartment. Never underestimate the power of the universe (or a good garage sale) to find you a great couch at an insane price. Pivot. PIVOT!
- Call your mom just because, send your aunt an email telling her all about what you’ve been up to, Skype with a friend who lives far away. Make someone’s day by reminding them how much you love them, and that you just happened to be thinking of them.
- Order a Bloody Mary on your flight. Yes, even a morning flight. In fact, the earlier the flight, the better.
- Walk or bike to the places you always drive or take the train to. Find out what you’ve been missing along the way.
- Take the number out of your phone–you know the one–that only causes you trouble, the one that only makes you regret dialing it, texting it, that contains a message history too painful of embarrassing to read.
- Light candles for yourself, just because. Make yourself feel like a guest in your own home, because tiny moments of self-love and self-care go a long way.
- Spend the extra money on heels that are made of quality materials, won’t absolutely kill your feet, and will last past a full LBD season. Not a heel fan (because your girl is most definitely NOT)? Splurge on that pair of expensive running shoes. Hit the pavement and channel your inner Forrest Gump.
- Go out on a Tuesday night and have one too many drinks, because it’s f*#@ing fun and the second you swear off Tuesday-night spontaneity forever, you know you’ve gotten old. There’s always room for one impromptu happy hour every once in a while. Especially when there are quesadillas, cheesecurds and/or cheesesticks involved. Basically anything involving deep-fried fromage.
- Make mistakes. Make them often. But use those mistakes as a lesson learned. It means you’re trying, you’re putting yourself out there. You’re not letting fear prevent you from seeing how incredibly incredible you really are.
- Take that trip out to see that person you’re always promising to see. Buy the tickets six months in advance so that you can’t turn back. Be conscious of money, but don’t let it hinder your memories made.
- Leave that job that’s costing more for your mental health than it’s giving to your bank account. Know that you deserve to be reasonably happy in your job, even if it’s still a job. Don’t give anyone your sanity for a paycheck.
- Say “I love you” to the people you care most about, let them know how much they mean to you, how much you appreciate them, how much they make your heart smile. Love hard, and often.
- Say “I’m sorry” to the people you know deserve to hear it. Swallow your pride and give them the apology that you would want to hear, and tell them how you’ll do better in the future. Ask what you could have done differently, and listen to what they have to say. But be sure to ask the same from them.
- Go skydiving, take that improve or dancing class you’ve always been interested in, finally ask your crush out, and dye your hair purple. Do everything and anything that scares you. You don’t know how amazing it could be until you try. After all, the only thing more terrifying that facing the things that scare you is living an unlived life.
- Order the fries. Have that extra scoop. Make yourself cupcakes, just because it’s a Tuesday night. Being healthy includes mental health, and agonizing over something delicious is never worth it. You can find balance and also find chicken nugget dinosaurs.
Life is short, y’all. Like, Tom Cruise short. Which is why it’s important to do just all of the things. Things that you may be afraid of, things that are not part of your “routine”, things that make your heart race, your palms sweat and your soul smile.
I’m learning more and more everyday that the time we have here is limited. Why spend another minute, another second doing something we hate, missing out on incredible life-affirming experiences and long-lasting relationships/friendships.
Eat the cupcakes.
Do the things.
Give the biggest bear hugs.
You’ll thank me later. I promise. 🙂