My Awesomely Random Life (and Everything in Between)

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Your palms start to sweat, your face turns a lovely shade of Shebastian and your stomach starts doing crazy Cirque de Soleil acrobatics.

You can WebMD all you want my friends, but all signs and symptoms point to one thing: you’ve got a serious case of the butterflies.

Or in certain cases, pterodactyls.

There are many ways that you can contract these aforementioned butterflies; starting a new job, preparing for an interview, or even right before you get up on stage to Beyoncé your heart out in front of a crowd at karaoke night.

The most common culprit however, the one thing that gives you all the feels while tying your stomach up in knots simultaneously?

Love.

It’s the most terrifying and amazing feeling in the world, and if you happen to have been struck by Cupid’s arrow, there is a good chance that those butterflies are in full-on beast mode.

I tell you this, because I happen to be experiencing a very bad case of the ‘flies myself.

Darn you, you chubby-winged flying baby!

I think we all have felt those butterflies at some point, especially when a relationship is new; you’re still getting to know one another and get a sense of what you really think of the other person. The first few weeks and months of dating are terribly exciting and nerve-wracking all at once. But I think that’s the way it should be. If you’re not even the teeny tiniest bit nervous, you more than likely don’t think too highly of the other person.

At some point, many will say that those butterflies will start to fade away–or even disappear all together–as you get more comfortable with each other. I am here to tell you otherwise, however.

I don’t think those butterflies should ever go away. In fact, I think a great way to tell if you are falling in love with someone is by how nervous they make you feel. Nervousness in a way is a biological and physiological reaction to our need to protect, identifying what it is that truly means a lot to us.

Here are just some of the reasons how the right person should give you those pesky (but oh so great) butterflies–and why they should never go away.

1. You can’t wait until the next time you hear from or see him/her.

We’ve all been there before. You send a text and while you tell yourself that you’re not waiting for a reply, you’re secretly reprising Jack Nicolson’s role in One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest. Just when you think you can’t get any more crazy-applesauce, your Blankspace ringtone goes off, sending you to the ceiling with glee as he/she finally (FINALLY!!) responded.

Texting and talking on the phone is great, but you find yourself constantly thinking about the next time you will see him/her. You miss their laugh, their smile, the way your hand fits ever so perfectly in theirs (excuse the mushie gushies—I told you, I’ve got a very bad case!). You can’t help but anxiously await the next time you’ll get to be with the other person. Oh those butterflies.

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2. You still get embarrassed every time you burp…

Or snort while laughing. Or the sound you make when sneezing. Or how you tend to trip while walking up the steps. You could have been together for a day or ten years, but somehow the thought of these little idiosyncrasies, these unique quarks that you have are still cause for embarrassment. But you know what? I think it’s these very things, the burping and snorting and sneezing and tripping, that make your significant other all the more attracted to you.

3. You’re nervous about how much you like/love him/her.

You like this person. You really like this person.

Nope.

Crap.

You love this person. You really love this person.

Having such strong and incredible feelings towards another person is amazing. Like, it’s the best thing in the history of ever. But having these strong and incredible feelings can also be just all of the terrifying. This may be the first time you’ve ever truly been in love before so everything is so new and unfamiliar. You may be scared of not having the feelings be reciprocated. Or worse, you may fear your heart being broken. This is all very normal and part of a healthy relationship. Your brain and heart are can often be in a constant battle, but finding the person, your person who feels the same way about you? I think it makes everything worth it.

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4. You’re both nervous and excited for what the future will hold for the both of you…together.

Thinking about the future when you’re in love takes on a whole different meaning. Now instead of just thinking what your life will look like 5 or 10 years down the road, you think about what your lives will look like. You’ve found the person, your person and you’re both nervous and excited about what that picture will look like with both of you…together. Traveling, moving in together, marriage and kids. These are all things that bring life so much joy, so much happiness. When you find that person, your person, you can’t help but look forward to sharing these experiences with one another.

5. The chance of having to say goodbye.

In every relationship, there is always that change of it not working out for whatever reason. When you’re in love, you don’t ever want to think about something like that happening. The thought of not being with the other person is definite cause for butterflies, but in this case, they’re not the good kind. I think in cases like this, it makes you appreciate the other person even more, not taking for granted each hug, each kiss, each time you are together.

Your palms start to sweat, your face turns a lovely shade of Shebastian and your stomach starts doing crazy Cirque de Soleil acrobatics.

They may be pesky little guys, but if and when you find the person, your person, they will be a constant reminder of how much you respect, adore, like and love him/her.

All thanks to that darn chubby-winged flying baby.

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