We all need a little guidance sometimes, don’t we?
One of the wisest people I have ever known was my great-grandma Boulter. She lived to be 102 years old and was as spunky, quick-witted, funny and endearing at 102 as she probably was at 22. I used to love going to visit her, listening to her tell stories of when she was growing up; the things she saw, experienced and lived through. These talks were always conducted over a steady plate of chocolate-chip cookies and milk of course, just one of the many life-lessons she passed on to me:
“My dearest Wendi, an empty plate of cookies and a full belly are two of the greatest things in the world.”
I am happy to say that I have honed in on this piece of advice–I cannot go to bed to this day without a little (or a lot) milk and cookie action.
There are many things that my great-grandma taught me:
Smiles are free; give as often and as much as you can.
The power of prayer in immeasurable.
A little lipstick goes a long way (this I never really followed, but I love how even in her old age, my grandma wasn’t shy of looking her best.)
There is power in forgiveness.
And my favorite piece of advice she ever gave me: “When you love, love with your whole self.”
Wise words from a very wise woman.
Speaking of wise women…
On a recent Reddit thread, older women were asked what advice they would give to their younger counterparts. Here’s the 8 pearls of wisdom they offered:
#1. You’ll learn when something isn’t worth your energy. “It’s amazing how many things fix themselves. It’s even more amazing simply acknowledging that maybe it simply isn’t any of my business.”
#2. In your 20s, you’re still maturing and changing as a person. “There is a huge amount of personal growth throughout your 20s. Someday you’ll look back on your 20s and be like ‘OH HELLLL NO’”
#3. Don’t worry about aging. “Life is a process, and youth isn’t the be-all and end-all of a woman’s existence.”
#4. Things probably won’t go the way you expected them to. “We all have a great plan, then stuff happens.”
#5. Don’t give yourself a deadline for major milestones. “I used to think that if I did not have kids or find ‘the one’ it would mean that I failed. But that is not the case. It is perfectly fine to be single at 30, and still figuring things out. Being single does not mean that I am not worth it.”
#6. Relationships don’t stay the same for very long. “Relationships never ever stop changing, nor do people.”
#7. You might start caring less about certain things as you get older — and that’s okay. “Many women in their 30s, myself included, start to feel more confident and happy with life. And a lot develop a ‘!#&@ it, I don’t care’ attitude toward others’ opinions, or a ‘f!#&@ it, I can handle this’ attitude toward problems.”
#8. Never become completely dependent on one person for your financial wellbeing. Men come and go. Do not put your life in their hands financially long-term, get a job and make sure that at any given moment you can provide for yourself and possibly for a child. Because anything can happen. Divorce, stroke, car crash, cheating — anything.
Credit: Huffington Post
Yes, yes, and yes! To all of the above!
Question of the day: What pieces of advice have you been given over the years?