Happy hump day
It’s been a while but I have a big, huge, epic ’Thing that made me go “hmm” to share with y’all today.
Hey, it’s your wedding, so you can sing Christina Aguilera if you want to.
That apparently was the choice of one bride recently, who decided to memorialize her walk down the aisle by singing “The Right Man” by my favorite genie in a bottle, one Miss Christina Aquilera. In what might be one of the most unique (and somewhat awkward) ways to make the last leg of the journey to the altar that I’ve seen, Marie Carr sultry serenaded the tune to Devin, her husband-to-be as she made her way toward him.
I have two takes on this ‘Hmm’. When I first saw the video, I thought ‘holy awkward turtle, Batman.’ My face began to turn a lovely shade of red and I felt uncomfortable not only for her, but for all of their friends and loved ones in the audience as well her husband to be–especially in the end when she was just inches from his face, looking lovingly into his eyes as she belted out the last few words of the song. I would have broken out in fits of LOL’s and LMFO’s, probably ruining my make-up and perfectly quaffed hairdo in the process. Don’t get me wrong; I am all for being creative and making an event, especially one as monumental as your wedding day, something to remember, but I thought that this might have been just a tad too much.
Despite it’s awkwardness, I do think it was really sweet. The bride went out of her way to not only tell her husband to be how much she loved and cared for him, but she showed him through song. I have to give this gal a lot of credit; I don’t think I would have had the courage (or the voice) to do something this cool, even if I was chocolate wasted prior to.
This video got me thinking about other over the top, crazy and sometimes silly grand gestures that people sometime perform for others, whether it be as a gift, a romantic surprise or a random and spontaneous occurrence.
One of the most memorable grand gestures that anyone ever did for me was when I was in the sixth grade. One bumping Saturday night, a bunch of my friends and I went to the hotest hangout spot in Wausau, the roller skating rink (shout out to High Roller). Jason, my ‘boyfriend’ at the time (when you were 12, your boyfriend/girlfriend was the person who you sat with at lunch, danced with at the Spring Fling and got your parents to drive you to and from the latest flick Toy Story 2 at the movie theater) decided to get his buddies together and pool all of their tickets won from endless Skee ball and Wack-A-Mole games so that he would get me a necklace. It took him nearly all night, and probably cost him a fortune in silly tickets, but he got me that necklace. It was one of those corny, cheap, gold-that-turns-your-skin-blue-whenever-you-wear-it pieces of jewelry, but to me, it was beautiful, priceless, the most gorgeous thing I had ever had. It wasn’t the necklace itself, but the work and effort and thought that went into getting the corny, cheap, gold-that-turns-your-skin-blue-whenever-you-wear-it piece of jewelry that really made it special. You want to know a little secret? I don’t have a great deal of jewelry, but I still have that cheap High Roller necklace
I made a list of some of the most popular grand gestures and what I think about them. If you have any others to add to my list and/or want to comment on what I have so far, please do! I would LOVE LOVE LOVE to hear your thoughts
1. Sky writing: I am ALL for this! I think it’s a creative and surprising way to show someone how much you love or care for them. The negatives: it can cost an arm and a leg to do, you have to be sure to have the intended recipient in just the right spot at just the right time which can be tricky, and there’s always the chance that you get a pilot who does not have spellcheck.
2. Jumbo Tron: I have always had a secret dream of getting proposed to at a Brewer game on the big screen. I know, I know. Completely cheesy. It would take a special kind of guy to have the guts to do such an over-the-top gesture, a guy I would most definitely say ‘I do’ to. Of course not all gals are like me and would run for the hills if such a course of action was taken. Advice for all the dudes out there: really get a feel for what your girl likes and if getting down on one knee on the top of the eighth, bases loaded, with two outs and a full count in NOT her thing, I would maybe think of something else. Another jumbo tron gesture…the infamous kiss cam which in my opinion is the greatest thing ever invented. The moment when that camera captures two complete strangers, a brother and a sister, a couple who has been married for 70 years and that completely bathos look comes across their face and they wonder ‘do I or don’t I?’, that moment is the best!
3. The Live band or violinist at dinner: Not a fan. I love music but when a guy is standing over my shoulder as I am stuffing my mouth with steak and mashed potatoes, yeah…not exactly romantic. I also don’t know whether I should keep eating or be polite and wait until they’re done. or if I should smile or laugh or get up and start dancing (which is SO something that I would do by the way to make things even more NOT awkward).
4. There’s a ring in my cake!: Surprising your girlfriend/boyfriend with the ring in a piece of food can be romantic and is definitely surprising but there can be some downfalls to this gesture. First, you run the risk of your gal/guy choking. Not the best way to start an engagement in my opinion. Secondly, there is a very specific and exact timing and presentation issue that you have to follow and be sure to adhere to, which if you’re willing to do, go for it! And thirdly, whether it be your caesar salad or your chocolate souffle, no matter what it is you are sticking that rock into, it will get dirty and sticky. Tasty sure, but dirty and sticky.
5. Flash Mobs: LOVE!!!!!
6. Surprise Parties: I liked to be surprised, especially when it comes to getting my party on but I know there are a lot of peeps out there who would flip their lid if they were ambushed by their friends and family wearing party hats and throwing confetti. I have never been surprised but I have done my fair share of doing the surprising and I think that is even more fun. it is a lot of work, and it takes a lot of planning and strategizing, but the look of the person’s face, the shock and utter excitement (for most people) is totally worth it!
7. Written poems/songs: Anything that comes from the heart, that is creative and funny and cute, that takes time and consideration and a real understanding of the person is A-Okay in my book! As long as it isn’t a get-back-at-my-ex, Taylor Swift, Dear John type ballad (although that D-bag totally had that coming to him!).
A gesture, whether big or small, is such a great way to show someone, a friend, a sister or brother, a boyfriend or girlfriend, how much you love and care for them. If it will make someone’s day, I may even consider belting out a Christina song (ear muffs for everyone near by will be provided).
Questions of the day: What do you think of this bride’s grand gesture?
What are some grand gestures that you have made/been given?